When i go patch a terrain my texture either turns invisible or has a checkerboard texture and wont let me add a texture to it. and i have show patches as wireframe unchecked.

picture please? I am not sure what you mean

before terrain patch http://gyazo.com/fd93cb70441214dd96390d716e05db72

after terrain patch http://gyazo.com/fb847cd1fd3d333b3fca1d0c90518529

and no its not a blend texture

before terrain patch http://gyazo.com/fd93cb70441214dd96390d716e05db72

after terrain patch http://gyazo.com/fb847cd1fd3d333b3fca1d0c90518529

and no its not a blend texture

This is because its a terrain patch this means it thinks you want it flat so what you need rotate it and make it bigger.

I got it. the problem was i couldnt have a texture touching another texture